Self-Care Isn't Selfish

Self-care can be tricky. What practices should I choose? What does self-care mean to me?  Is self-care just simply doing things that feel good? Can I incorrectly choose a self-care practice? Why bother with self-care at all?

Simply put, self-care is the effort from the individual to maintain health and well-being. It is any practice the one can do for themselves and without the aid of a medical professional that encourages overall health. Self care practices can be physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual. Some self care practices can touch on all of those things at the same time. Self-care should not be confused with just anything that makes a person feel good, however. Excessive drinking may feel good in the moment, but it certainly does not maintain health and well being, especially over time.

Self-care is an empowering and worthy practice. Self-care practices can help us live longer and more fulfilling lives. Many self-care practices, like eating whole, nutrient rich foods and low impact exercise, can help prevent illness. Just like anything in our lives, if we want things to grow and flourish, we must tend to them by giving them what it is that helps them grow. Our bodies are no different.

Many people believe that self-care practices require time and money. In fact, 44 percent of people avoid self-care practices because they believe only those that have enough time can practice self-care, and 35% of people avoid self-care because they believe it costs a lot of money. When we talk about self-care, most of us imagine a full day at the spa complete with a deep-tissue massage and a facial. Some of us might imagine a woman that wakes up at 5am every morning to practice an hour of yoga, 30 minutes of meditation, and then drinks her vegan smoothie made from organic ingredients, perfectly blended thanks to her Vitamix.

The truth is, self-care can be done in a short amount of time without spending any money. Self-care is anything we do that encourages our health and well being. Self-care can be as simple as taking a bath at the end of a long day, or saying no to a social gathering, or going to bed early.  

Another misconception about self-care is that it is often seen as self-improvement. We’ve all had those moments where we’ve hit a wall when all the stressors in our life have caught up with us. In a panic, we make a vow to “be better.” We pledge to exercise every day and eat less sugar, start meditating, drink more water, drink less alcohol, etc. We vow to lose 10 pounds and start seeing a therapist. We evaluate our current state, blame ourselves for the issues we see, and pledge to make better choices in the future. Self-improvement stems from a perfectionist mind-set. It’s the idea that there’s something about us that’s wrong and needs fixing, and only until we’ve achieved the better state we’re reaching are we then worthy of love and self-care. This mindset can often lead to feelings of shame, which is a truly dysfunctional feeling, often resulting in negative and unhealthy behaviors.

Self-care is a nurturing and gentle practice. Self-care isn’t about being better; it’s about feeling better. Instead of seeing self care as certain behaviors, it may be more helpful to see self-care as a state of being. You may ask yourself, “What can I do in this moment right now that will help me feel better?”

The key to behavior change is giving yourself attainable goals. What if your self-care practice began with kindness to yourself? What if your self care practice began with small and simple steps like expressing gratitude whatever you have in your life that brings you joy? What if self-care is as simple as not beating yourself up for not having a perfect self-care practice?

Kindness, gratitude, positive thinking, deep breathing, and joy are all self-care practices that do not take much time and are 100% free. The best part of these practices is that you can choose them in every moment of your life. Before you dismiss self-care because you don’t believe you have the time or money for self-care, trying being kind to yourself. You’ll feel better every time.

Author
Dr. Daniel Fedeli Daniel J. Fedeli, DC, PC, established The Balancing Center in 1987 to meet the increasing demand for alternative healthcare in Chicago and offer access to a different perspective on health and wellness. He believes in techniques that re-establish balance in order to promote the incredibly powerful resources that lie within the human body. His noninvasive techniques work with the body, optimizing performance and function, in order to alleviate pain and stress. Dr. Fedeli combines the National Upper Cervical Chiropractic Association (NUCCA) method with a wide array of forward-thinking techniques designed to release physical holding patterns, and ease the effect of traumas, memories, and emotions on the body’s critical functions. Carefully selected treatments, such as energy synchronization, neuro-emotional clearing, stabilizing exercise, and movement therapies are used in conjunction with spinal adjustments to remove factors adversely affecting the body’s ability to restore and maintain long-term stability.

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